The KnowComplaints Update and Coaching Invitation.

                 

                  
                        Greetings and Happy Holidays!

   

 
    Well its almost 12/21, and the cool thing about doomsday prophecies is they inspire us to compare all the things we have in our lives with nothing! This contrast and reminder of our mortality can shock us into gratitude!  I think the inspiration is timely.

Gratitude takes a strong intention when things get as challenging as they've been for many of us.  My last year had a million beautiful moments, and it also had several very heartbreaking challenges.  Thankfully there has been a lot of saving grace along the way and many wonderful souls to support me. Life has once again turned out to be "good enough".

"Good enough" is a powerful perspective to embrace, and it creates our feelings of gratitude and contentment.  It allows us to relax and feel safe again as we shift our focus from what we don't have, to what we do have.  There's always room for improvement in life, and we can stay balanced while changing it up by continuing to appreciate everything we've already created. If we get too focused on what isn't good enough we get cranky.  When you find yourself complaining it's a very good sign you've forgotten to be grateful.

My personal practice is to catch every complaining and critical thought I have, and turn it into an accepting and grateful one.  This sounds like an exhausting and overwhelming task, but it's actually energizing and pays off dramatically. I experience more peace, joy and happiness every day and year as I become more skillful and aware.  Watching the old defeating thoughts and feelings fade away is a beautiful gift!

Turning life into a spiritual practice, changing your inner conversation, and transcending your negative thoughts and feelings are the kind of wisdom I'd love to share with you privately as your "Personal Enlightenment Enthusiast and Coach".

For over 20 years I've been teaching the practices of awakened living and helping people integrate these ideas into they're personal psychology. My goal is to explain the concepts, share my insights and help you apply the practices into your own personal life circumstances.  It would be my honor to share what I know and witness your release from the crazy ways we can needlessly suffer.

Over and over again our negative thoughts and emotions destroy our peace.  Many people see this but aren't clear on how to get it to change. Managing and navigating the evolution of your ego, can be tricky to say the least.

For instance, you might find yourself thinking spiritual thoughts while you still experience the negative ego's words and feelings. The attempt to deal with this is confusing, and requires a patient and skillful witness to keep you grounded in your intention to heal.  Together we can both be your witness, and together we'll strengthen your ability to navigate these kinds of obstacles on your own.

Your witness will eventually become your own coach as you access more wisdom and refine your awareness.  In the meantime, our sessions will increase your clarity and awareness and reflect back to you how you're still getting in your own way. Our old patterns don't usually give up easily, and I sincerely believe I can help speed up your process and inspire you to move forward.

So if you find yourself wondering, "Why don't I feel better? Why don't my new thoughts stick? Why won't the fear, doubt, and criticism I no longer believe in go away? How long will this take? Am I missing something?"   Take heart!

This is not the time to believe your hopelessness and be re-victimized by your old programs and patterns, but the time to get support and speed up your process. I would be grateful to help you bridge the gap between unconscious and conscious living, and offer you new insights into the adventure of waking up and uplifting your spirit.

Please contact me by phone or email and we can set up a complementary conversation. You can reach me at 303-928-0844, or breaze11@aol.com

And finally, I'd like to remind you that KnowComplaints has continued with my over 500 twitter teachings or quotes, which can be easily read by clicking below. No sign up needed.                          Quotes: http://twitter.com/knowcomplaints

With love and wishes for peace and joy,
Bryan

The 80th KnowComplaints Inspiration

Greetings,

Tweets to ponder:

Do you know what you're thinking right now or are you just thinking it? This is the difference between waking up or just living in a dream.

Thoughts become things only when you believe them. Held in conscious awareness, any negative thought or feeling can be rendered powerless.

If you aren't giving someone any of your time, chances are they don't feel loved. There's no substitute for your presence.

Even when I think I've been clever enough to clamor through my delusions, I find it's always a good idea to get a second opinion.

If you look at yourself honestly you get to see all these schemes and agendas you have going on that are just mind boggling. Ya gotta laugh.

If someone is fooling himself, so to speak, then they're not really lying to you; you're just being misinformed. We all have blind spots.

To evolve is to reform your personalities "way of being" and all it's preferences so that it lines up with the wisdom you learn as you grow.

"Letting it all happen" doesn't change anything, it just frees you from the painful delusion that you had any control in the first place.

Life is full of poignant delays. You may be escaping huge tragedy or being set up for good fortune and unseen solutions to your problems.

Even the most brilliant and intelligent people have minds that babble random, negative non-sense to them. Don't take yourself so personally.

Maybe it needed to happen for a reason, it's not as bad as it feels, you'll cope better than you think and no one needs to be blamed for it.

The tragedies of life are terrifying yet we can find peace between them in how we so often and so consistently escape them most of the time.

Wishing you peace and gratitude,
Bryan
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The 79th KnowComplaints Inspiration

Greetings!

New Tweachings:

Really seeking the truth is being objective enough to see the wisdom or skillful choice in every situation as if you weren't a part of it.

At least I managed to be "skillfully kind". I had to laugh as I watched my mind spend the rest the day figuring out how to punish the guy.

Life is going to be as sweet as you are. Kindness is magical.

The mind often cleverly spins life into a bad story. It puts too much time between the good memories and not enough between the scary ones.

We have enough "real" difficulty in life without imagining all the problems or catastrophes that could happen later. Try not to go there.

I have a very deep trust that any compassionate, creative, intelligence would be okay with me being totally confused as to what to believe.

If you're not going to take action, why complain about a situation or give it any airtime? Why lose your peace over what you can't control?

This very moment is changing the timing of your whole future and will shift everything. Read this once more and you will have done it again.

You're going to wait for something today. Let it be okay and a part of what is supposed to happen. Trust the divine orchestration of life.

We can be friends with what we don't like or agree with. Acceptance is not approval, and finding peace isn't about getting everything right.

There's something about everyone and everything we don't like. This doesn't have to be a problem.

We spend so much time making things wrong. It's amazing to notice. Things could always be better, but I'm not sure we'd notice if they were.

My dear Gangaji. You have been so much to me without even knowing. I've satsanged with you in Boulder. Thank you for following me!! I love you dearly @Gangaji

Understand how over-reactive and unlikely your fears are! Dismiss them consistently with conviction and they lose their power over you.

The flow of grace is natural.The only thing that blocks it is our idea that we've done something wrong enough that we no longer deserve it.

Sending you wishes for joy, peace, and presence,
Bryan
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The 78th KnowComplaints Inspiration

Greetings!

It's always just a romantic fantasy that things would have been better if you had done something different. You can't know so let it go.

Acceptance is not approval. Allowing our differences, and agreeing to disagree without trying to change each other is the key to family.
   
Give the gift of your unconditional love and acceptance. You don't have to like or approve of anyone or anything to be at peace. 

Question every thought you have about the future. When you stop trying to know, and you let it go, you've awakened back to reality.

If you went back and changed one thing you called a mistake, you would have to give up everything being the way it is right now. The difference in how it would have affected the timing of everything that has happened from that moment on, would have changed all the details that have led up to this moment being exactly the way it is right now.

"Truth or illusion? We don't know the difference but we must act as if we do."- Stocker Channing from Six Degrees of Seperation.

The fewer opinions you have the freer you'll feel. They clutter the mind and don't leave room for you to absorb life through your senses.
  
Our disappointments are just about some idea we had and yet we act like they were mistakes. Surrender! Trust that perfection is brewing.

Whatever seems to not be working may be the needed stepping stone to get you into an even better situation. It's been true before, right?

Thank you for all your patience and support!
Peace to you,
Bryan
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The 77th KnowComplaints Inspiration

Greetings!

Here's a few new tweachings as I get back in the inspirational groove:

Most people don't mean to offend us, yet we complain about them all day long while they never think of us again. Don't trust defensiveness.
 
That slow driver might prevent you from being hit by a semi at the next intersection. Timing is everything. Don't trust your complaints!

If even 1 of every 10 complaints you had was turned to gratitude, you'd be awakened to a new awareness of how good things really are.

Whatever you're worrying about right now just isn't worth the time. Take the next step, let go, and trust. Let life show up for you.

Trust that all obstacles are what need to happen to get everything to fall into place. Just watch and you'll see it's true if you let go.
 
Whatever you're saying to yourself is a huge part of why you feel the way you do, whether you know it or not. Be kind and respectful with yourself.

Our Biggest stress comes from trying to force the timing of when everything happens. Let go all frustration and trust the perfection.
   
Contentment is natural when you're not caught by your complaining mind. Don't let it victimize you and ruin your life. Practice acceptance.

What you think always changes, but how you think doesn't unless you practice changing it. Your mind is worth paying attention to. Meditate?

Your life experience is all about where you put your attention. Are you looking for the beauty or for what's wrong? It's your choice.

Peace to you,
Bryan
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The 76th KnowComplaints Inspiration

Greetings!

I wish you a wonderful week, and I invite you to just keep talking yourself out of your stories. Those opinions and commentaries on life that are the uncontrolled habit of the complaining mind.

Let them go and be present. Life is so much simpler without them. There are better things to do with our minds than make up projections about the future and create negative opinions about the present. The practice is to keep interrupting these habits with a breath and a release, and replace them with coming back to the moment, and choosing trust. I wish you success!

Last weeks Teachings to ponder:

What if you stopped right now and took a moment to talk yourself out of your fearful fantasies? You'd be telling yourself the truth.
  
Everyone's complaining about each other so where does it start? Are we unconsciously putting out what we don't want to get back?

Sometimes when we think of being kind, our shadow looks us right in the face and says "no". You don't have to feel it to choose it.

Let go of your attachment to the timing of life, and it becomes a mystical dance where things work out way better than you could've planned!

Life never stops giving to you. It's when you decide that it has to love you in a certain way that you lose sight of all the gifts.

I don't think we ever regret letting go of our anger, and we often look back at the times we've lashed out, and wish we hadn't.

"I'm feeling kinda " De-caf " today." LOL -(RT)

Some things ARE wrong, but if we see them as skillful or unskillful instead we'll start dismantling our punishing and condemning attitudes.

Sharing the truth and explaining your difficulties isn't complaining. It turns into complaining when you decide to make things wrong.

Maintaining composure is how we create happiness. Try to stay peaceful and trusting while your complaining mind reacts with any negativity.  

Next time you get impatient, remember that whenever you allow someone to be who they are without criticism, it's a great act of compassion. 

Almost all of what we fear never happens, and when it does our ability to handle it far exceeds our expectations of ourselves. Almost all fear is a fraud.

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Wishing you peace and equanimity,
Bryan

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The 75th Inspiration

Greetings!

    There aren't too many choices when life decides it's time for an "intensive". Those times when life seems to pull out every possible rug from underneath you.  You just have to go with it, and rely on whatever level of equanimity you have when it all comes down.  Equanimity is the ability to tolerate discomfort.

Equanimity is a really BIG and spacious concept. It's as big as life, because no matter what you're being faced with it, it has the potential to transform any moment.  The place that equanimity leaves you in is a powerful and sturdy one. Our strength and courage are born from the steady wisdom that it allows you to access, even in the most difficult situations.

My biggest teacher lately has been with my mother.  What do you when your parent and dear loving friend loses her sanity to Alzheimer's and can no longer understand you or what's going on in the present moment?  You simply have to get past your own stuff and show up with all the love and support you can. 

I am so grateful for the years I have spent consciously cultivating equanimity.  Without it I don't know how I would be surviving the chaos and sadness. It's equanimity that's allowed me to sit with her for hours and rub her back, explore her hallucinations, help arrange her stories into happy ones, and laugh with her at something that isn't really there...all the while as my heart is breaking.

Equanimity is an acceptance of even the harshest of circumstances and it creates access to our sensibilities.  When you can remain calm, there's a compassionate intelligence that allows you to make your best choices.

To make this work with my mom I've had to consistently breathe into my sadness, grief, anxiety, fear, terror, and all my aversions as they arise in the moment. It's a background process going on the whole time I'm with her. It's because of this mindfulness that I've been able to handle it emotionally and stay compassionately effective. The breath becomes the vehicle for releasing your discomfort, and your equanimity is born with every intentional release.

It's also the necessary ingredient for patience.  In every aware moment, you can replace your typical reactions of impatience or frustration with a moment of conscious hesitation, in which you can infuse "allowing" into your experience to replace the resistance. And every time you succeed, you're heightening the chances that you'll remember to do it next time with more success. This is the power of a mindfulness practice.

It's our inability "to be comfortable with discomfort" that's the core of our weakness and the trigger of our distress.

How does one become comfortable with what doesn't feel good? From my experience, it's really a choice to desensitize yourself and change your attitude through repeated exposure, and to change the meaning that you give things. In this case, you choose to no longer let the discomfort "mean" that something is wrong or that it needs to change. You allow life's hardships, and respect how they are bigger than us.

The concepts behind the practice of equanimity are;

*Not resisting your circumstances.
*Letting go of your ideas about what should or shouldn't be happening.
*Not resisting or automatically believing your own internal emotional reactions,
*Not buying into your stories and opinions that criticize the present, or fear the future.

If you can interrupt your programs with an intention to find peace with the moment; With time and practice you can re-create how you experience the world.

How much time and practice?  As Pema Chodron says, "We must start where we are".  I invite you to start or re-start right now.  It can happen with just an intention but meditation is the best known way to support this whole process. Every time you sit and watch your inner experience from the safety and wisdom of your observer and you don't give into the drama of the mind, you're building equanimity.  For detailed instructions on a classic meditation to develop awareness and equanimity, go here: http://dld.bz/meditate

It's my intention for KnowComplaints to offer you the resources you need to make this happen.  There are 74 past inspirations addressing much more for you to ponder.  To view please go here: http://bryanzerr.blogspot.com

Wishing you peace and Palm Springs Prideful weekend!
Bryan
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