The 43rd KnowComplaints Inspiration.

Welcome and greetings,

Well we've been at this here for four months now and I hope your efforts to break through the habits of complaining and criticizing are paying off and you're seeing changes. Hopefully new styles of conversations with yourself and others are taking place and your talking about life from a non-complaining perspective.

And very simply put: A non-complaining perspective is one that stops making things wrong. You might not like something, not want it, not like that it happened or might happen again, but when we make things wrong we are engaging in a condemning, blaming and punishing attitude.

This path cultivates a different relationship with what we don't like or approve of. It is to walk away or protect us against it but not to condemn it. The need to punish, take revenge, or make someone suffer to me has no place in a conscious world.

To avoid engaging the old punishing attitudes, it's a great shift to see things as skillful or unskillful, instead of right or wrong. We can have the same values and opinions without taking our heart or compassion out of the equation. We can disagree and still have compassion. No one needs to be punished any longer and that includes "you". It's the unconsciousness that needs to be eliminated, not the people experiencing it or who are victims to it.

So our practice is to try to stop making things wrong and see them as "unskillful ways". Stop making people wrong and see them as victims who need help, and stop making yourself wrong and see yourself as a victim as well. You are only as capable and conscious as you are, and we need to have compassion for ourselves as we grow.

Making things wrong is the access point for our shadow. If we take it away, the shadow doesn't really have any reason to express itself or doesn't have much to do!

This is a huge shift in perception so have patience with yourself as you explore it. It's also a concept we need to apply to our conversations. If you're having a conversation with someone and you're not making anything wrong, you're also not complaining.

Just a tease: The next inspiration includes the single most effective way to stop someone else from complaining to you in a conversation. :)

Peace to you,

Bryan

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