The 55TH. Trust means you don't believe your pain when you're hurt.

Greetings,

To continue on trust, I apologize for the sleepy-eyed typo in the last inspiration. It was a reference to finding yourself in an argument with a loved one and it was supposed to read:

"You're both just trying to get each other back, and neither of you meant to start it."

This is the heart of what's going on when two people are swept away in defense and attack. We get convinced unconsciously by our feelings that we've been wounded, and they're so strong we lose sight of our trust in the other person. It's almost uncanny how in those moments we believe this defensiveness over the confidence and trust we have for people.

Our critical programs get triggered, and before you know it you've got some crazy stories going on about how they never liked you to begin with, or the whole relationship has been a sham because you were just being used. If you're aware of this while it's happening it's fascinating to watch, and you can see these thoughts as programs instead of just believing them.

Trust means you give someone the benefit of the doubt. You challenge your wounded feelings and then communicate. It "makes sense" to assume your negative assumptions are wrong and find out the truth. Most conflicts just disappear this way and you often become closer as well.

And of course every once in a while people can't be trusted. They get possessed by their shadow and act out but it is the exception to the rule.

It's important not to lose sight of the amazing amount of safety we have. Very difficult things happen once in a while to everyone, but it's really only very few moments of our lives.

A little fear can make a lot of sense, but our level of caution has to be in line with how often something happens, and not an exaggerated view. It's crazy how one cruel person can get up our defenses and we end up treating the whole world as if it's a mean place. We have to watch our perspectives and keep them balanced. Almost everything happening in the news will never happen to you. If you stay sensible about your fearful notions your overall viewpoint will change to a more peaceful one.

The bottom line is that whatever happens, you can trust you'll be able to handle it "then". We don't need to ruin today's peace by premeditating every negative possibility. There is only one thing you're not going to be able to handle, and it's extremely unlikely it is going to happen to you today.

Remaining Peaceful and trusting life always makes sense, so we should just start choosing it more often instead of having to prove it to ourselves all of the time.

Peace to you,
Bryan


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